The family provides the love and nurturing required for
the survival of children. As we grow older, we crave nurturing, but are not
adept at asking for it. We long for affirmation from the‘significant other’ in
our lives. Affirmation is when important people in our lives appreciate us and
express it verbally, tonally,
non-verbally. The opposite of an affirmation is a
discount. You need at least ten affirmations for every discount for the
maintenance of a healthy relationship. A home filled with discounts becomes a
torture chamber instead of a sanctuary. It is important to make sure you give
affirmations to all members
of the family, particularly the ones to whom you usually
send devastating Heat Seeking Missiles (HSMs) like, ‘Why is your room like a
pig sty?’ ‘Why do you always forget anything I tell you?’ Make every day an
occasion to show how important your family is to you.
Reach out and ask for what you want. If you are Hungry, ask for food or treat
your family to food. Eat together. The Family that eats together, stays
together.
If you are Angry,
talk about it when you have calmed down. Your family can be a shock absorber,
helping you to process your feelings and resolving them. If you are Lonely, ask for a hug. Express
your affection. Give a gift.
If
you are Tired, rest. Take a
break. Do not drive yourself to a break down or burn out. Get a massage. Book a
pedicure. Go for a walk. Take a day off and catch up on your sleep. Learn Yoga
Nidra. Invest in learning to Meditate.
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