The family is the magic circle where all wounds are
healed and all dissonance melts into harmony. It is important to make sure you
give affirmations to all members of the family, particularly the ones to whom
you usually send devastating Heat Seeking Missiles (HSMs) like, ‘Why is your
room like a pig sty?’ ‘Why do you always forget anything I tell you?’
Make every day an occasion to show how important your
family is to you. Everyone talks of quality time nowadays. Once, a girl from
Kuala Lumpur told me about her exciting marriage to a man from LA. ‘We have a
really good time on holidays,’ she said. Another bright young yuppie from a
major bank said her husband worked for the same bank in another city. ‘We meet
on weekends and feel just like we did when we were dating!’ she said her eyes
shining. Is this looked-forward-to weekend the antidote to the solid permanence
and possible boredom of a traditional marriage? Are the constant travels away
from each other the basis for the ‘open birdcage’ marriage to which the bird
always returns from its travels?
Children however need the security of a simple, dependable
schedule. Ambiguity or lack of dependability in family life is known to affect
the individual’s capacity to live in a secure long-term relationship in the
future.
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